We only “live in the past” because that’s how we are being “conditioned” to think; to “process” our experience. We have been lead to believe that analysing the past will ‘heal’ us … Sigmund Freud had a lot to do with this useless money making (for the therapists) attitude!
And so many of the alternative solution seekers look to the past … as though that worked so well. Yes, there are gems in the past ~ but it really does need to be re-worked in a Consciously Constructive manner!
Whether we are looking to our micro Transformation , or a macro transformation of our entire Reality … there are many more productive Resources freely available involving personal responsibility, Cognitive Behavioural Tools, that keep us in Present Time, making it easier to enjoy NOW regardless of what is going on around us. Our grandparents didn’t need all this “therapy” because they hadn’t been conditioned into believing they did! Nor did the generations before them deal with so many traumas, such as on-going wars (including slogans such as “the war on terror”) … life may have been tough and some coped better than others, but “common sense” used to be applied more liberally!
Observing our current behaviours and experience, applying new attitudes/ behaviours to create better outcomes, thus improving on our past behaviours and experience, is obviously going to Produce NEW outcomes. Some of which are going to be BETTER, closer to what we REALLY want.
The “Power of Healing” has always been in The Present. It only ever takes a split second to HEAL a thought/belief/emotional aspect that holds us back or in emotional pain. Triggered by DEALING with our Present Reality.
Trying to fix the past takes a life time. The past doesn’t need fixing, it is our Present NOW that can be brought Up Tone to produce new and better outcomes.
It is with the Awareness (that happens in Present Time, in this NOW,) that we are Observing our self in pain (for example) that empowers us to move up and out of it. Thus, in this moment, we are out of the “process” and now Progressing with the Awareness of our Observations. The HEALING happens in the moment We decide, as the Observer, to DEAL with the situation, to use a new perspective to ACTION our thoughts, to SHIFT to a new position on the Emotional Tone Scale thus ‘Healing’ or transforming our self in this moment. After that moment, it is simply remembering to stay in the Progressed state of mind, to not Allow our selves to slip back into debilitating habits.
To do this sustainably, we need to hold to the new position/attitude/consciousness that We have created for ourselves. When we notice we are no longer in the improved attitude (position on the Emotional Tone Scale), we can switch back to it again; because once the new neurological pathway has been created in our brain (or idea/experience in our Mind) it is ours to use at will. We can use pain and upsets to remind us to get back on track, back to a more comfortable Flowing position/consciousness. Or we can simply be lazy and do nothing to help ourselves and “hope & pray” that we will be rescued from our self, our laziness and apathy.
I have no patience for people choosing apathy over Personal Responsibility. Yes, I have slipped down to apathy on the Emotional Tone Scale a few times this lifetime … but I’ve always Known to use Personal Responsibility to Shift out of it. As the years went by I found more fun and easier ways of going about this.
I highly recommend using the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) to make these Shifts even easier. A possible Set-up Phrase: “Even though I have been trying to solve my Present pain by analysing my Past, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.” ♥